You are worth more than you know

A relationship with the wrong person can destroy your self-esteem. I suffered from low self-esteem for years because the man I was with would constantly try to make me feel bad about my self. He would tell me I was fat, could not dress, did not act or talk right, basically he would say just about anything to make me feel low. Not to mention his excessive cheating, that really did a number on me too. One time he told me my head was too big for my body and I needed to gain weight. Then a few days later he hinted that I was fat. I remember being so confused, and I felt completely worthless. No matter what I did or how hard I tried, it was never good enough for him.

When you don't have love for yourself, you feel powerless and stuck. My lack of love for myself caused me to stay in a bad relationship with an abuser. I realize deep down he hated himself so much, that the only way he could feel good was to make me feel worse than him. He would play emotional games with me on a daily basis. Whenever I would get mad and try to leave him, he would all of a sudden turn into Mr. Wright (but that would never last long).

I finally broke free after I had my son. Giving birth was instantly life changing for me. The moment I saw his face, I recognized my beauty and spirit in him. Loving my son so much in turn helped me learn to love myself. I have come a long way and the road has not been easy, but it has been soooo worth it! Here are some tips on how to build self-esteem.

-seek therapy if possible and get to the root of the problem
-get rid of all the people in your life that purposely tear your self esteem down
-focus on the positive and be optimistic
-do things that make you feel good about yourself and take time out for you
-don't let things eat away at you, acknowledge them and let them go
-decrease the stress in your life
-learn accept you for who you are

What is on the outside pales in comparison to the beauty you posses on the inside. Embrace and love who you are! God made you that way and in his eyes you are worth more than you know!

Genene